Somehow the topic of unconditional love popped up in a conversation I was having the other day. While I didn’t have much time to ponder it right then, the concept stayed with me and I’ve been thinking a lot about it lately. Unconditional love… what does that mean?
In theory, I think that people would say it’s a great thing. It’s romantic to love someone unconditionally but is it sane? Is it realistic? By definition, unconditional love means that I’ve erased all conditions. I will love you no matter what. And while that may sound swell to some folk, it sounds terrible to me. Imagine it… you love someone no matter how they treat you. You love someone no matter how they treat others. No matter what.
I think a lot of people would say that they love their spouse unconditionally but do you? If they beat you, would you still love them? What if they beat your children? At some point, to save yourself and your kids, you would have to stop loving them. Your sanity and your health would depend on it.
Next would be the unconditional love of a child. I would say in most instances, this would be the most realistic form of unconditional love. But once again, is it feasible that in every instance you would always love your child? If they were a mass murderer could you keep loving them? What if they were a serial rapist? Or a child molester? Honestly, would there still be love in your heart? Or would it slowly be erased away with each atrocity? I don’t know.
It seems inconceivable to me that a person could truly love anyone with a pure, unconditional love. To be honest, I don’t think I would want someone to love me unconditionally. That seems too easy. Things that come for free are hardly ever valued as highly as something that you had to work extra hard to get. If I know that I can lose it, I cherish it.
What do you think?